Can love last?: the fate of romance over time - Stephen A. Mitchell

Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, only if couples become aware of their self-destructive efforts to protect themselves from its risks.

Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.

com Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A.

Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships--it becomes increasingly dangerous.

What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management.

Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks.

Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.

--Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.

-- Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane--you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.

--Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.

--JoAnn Gutin, Salon.